SfI in Meetings and Conversations

Sharing Positive Moments

Strengths-focused Relationships (SfRs) are desirable because they increase positivity between and among people, thereby elevating feelings of wellbeing. When two or more people share positive moments, that makes the mood of the engagement more positive.

To start off any interpersonal interaction on a positive note, participants take turns sharing positive moments (PMs) and possibly also subjective strengths. Interactions that begin this way are characterized by feelings of trust and closeness between or among participants. The atmosphere of positivity creates opportunities for exploring how individual strengths might be relevant to the goals of the organization or within the relationship. When participants articulate strengths, opportunities for successful collaborations emerge.

Examples from an SfI Practitioner
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Hi, my name is Barb and I am a retired Transit worker (subways and buses), I live with my husband and within walking distance to my son and his family that includes two granddaughters here in Brooklyn, NY.

I enjoy working with fabric making quilts as well as various fabric renditions of digital art and granddaughter paintings. I am a loud supporter of the Brooklyn Nets basketball team, your sympathies are appreciated.

I’ve been involved in a meditation group for almost 20 years which is where I met Jennifer and learned of her work with Jerald on Articulating Strengths. I was intrigued with the work and joined the Strengths’ group that initially met monthly on Zoom to verbally describe one of our positive moments and articulate the strength associated with that event. I must admit at first I was a bit baffled at identifying the positive moment and would often times ask my husband and in his absence one of my granddaughters for an example. I suppose that I was consumed by all the negativity in the world every day that these little blips of bliss got lost or at the very least overlooked. Then the pandemic hit NY and the general negativity was magnified with fear, solitude and loss.

Yet through all of this, I found positive moments in everything from washing the dishes to resolving a problem to share with the group. I thought this was magical. During the dark days of the pandemic the Strengths group began to meet weekly and I began to record my positive moments in writing. The process of writing allows one to dig through the nuances generally
present in any moment to arrive at the beauty and joy that is underneath it all. From there I can more easily see the strength that emerges within me.

Another truly great benefit of writing is the ability to go back in time to read these moments much like one will read a diary. When preparing for this website I found that my readings from the past confirmed for me today that I will be good-to-go tomorrow.

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