Advanced SFI-Practice – Lesson 8

Objective: Act or Let Go

As you bring your attention into the present moment, the feelings you notice are not always positive. What do you do then? This video will help you analyze your negativity and return to positivity.

Notes on Practice
Sometimes it seems like a lot of things are going wrong. Things you use are breaking down. You may or may not be able to fix them. If something is wrong, it’s time to act. But what if you can’t fix it? 

The Serenity Prayer says, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” We agree that it is important to differentiate between what can be changed and what cannot. 

The SfI-Practice is a tool to use when either you cannot change something or after you have made a plan to change something that needs changing. In either of these cases, it’s time to do the practice. Shift your focus to what is positive now.

It’s hard to get people to put their feelings ahead of their accomplishments or other people’s judgements, but that is what we are asking people to do. Do the best you can. Accept it. Focus on positivity.

Reflection Question
Try to notice at least 3 different moments during a day when you are feeling bothered or negative. Then, think of what you might do to reduce or end your negative feelings.  If you cannot think of a way to end the negative feeling, this might be the time to say to yourself, “I guess I will just have to accept the likelihood that I can’t change whatever is making me feel negatively,” and “It would be healthier to focus my attention on something that makes me feel more positive.” Write about your experience on a day when you try this.
Articulating Your Strengths

“If I can do something about a negative situation, then I want to make a plan to do it.”